Sunday, June 16, 2013

3 goals in life

Most people aim big, aim far, aim for the sky, for the moon, for the god-like status. That's their goals in life. Everyone has goals. David Beckham has goals (a lot of them), Lee Kuan Yew has goals, my parents has goals, I have goals too. I recently thought of my 3 goals in life.

Stay happy,
Stay healthy,
Stay alive.

Stay happy. I had a very happy 2011 and 2012 but I'm not sure why my 2013 is like an "unhappy" year thus far. I think the reason it's because generally I'm too stressed out; I get irritated at the slightest thing and I'm a bit impatient. Maybe it's because that I'm still single at this age. Most certainly, I do not wish that this is the new me. I want to remain happy. The bulk of increasing unhappy Singaporeans surrounding me everyday reminds me of the hard truth that I'm in Singapore. A very competitive Singapore. Most Singaporeans are so stressed out that they forget what makes them happy and what is happiness. We complain at the slightest thing, we make noise when the lift is too slow, we are stingy to give praise or compliment thinking that good service is what we deserved.

I want to be happy. I want to live life and enjoy life. I want enjoy the details in life. I know I want and I know I can. I can be happy. But, some people tell me that "don't be naive". It's indeed naive and childish wanting to be happy but if you think being happy is outdated, you can carry on with your unhappy fake life living in a pool of gold. Stay happy. Whatever that might seems happy to you. Stay happy.

Stay healthy. Many people knows that health is wealth but many times we are still squandering our health in search of wealth. Then later squander our wealth in search of health. Is it really that hard to find a balance? Since young, I'm never a perfect healthy person. But I'm not the most unfortunate type that has life endangering illness. My parents never had to resort to posting my photos on Facebook asking for donations. I know that my diet and my lifestyle is very unhealthy but at least I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. I respect my body for my health. I want to live a healthier life. I don't want to be old and regret not taking care of my body when I was younger.

I want to be healthy. I mean, I want to be healthier. Take one small step at a time to start the change. I used to don't like milk but now I'm drinking milk almost everyday to strengthen up my bones. I'm taking Omega supplement pill daily because I don't eat fish. It's to improve my memory and make my blood flows better. I try to stand during commuting rides instead of fighting the hunger game for seat (this in turn makes me happier too). I do not reject an idea to try out new sports (if it's not too expensive). I try to sleep more. I hope it's not too late to start now. I want to stay healthy and be healthy. You should do it too. Stay healthy.

Stay alive. This last goal sounds weird. If you are reading this, most probably you are alive (if you are not, thanks for reading too). If you are reading this, I might not be alive. We never know what will happen to us the next moment. You can say that I'm kiasi (hokkien for "scared of death"), yes I am. I've been through depression (I think so) and now I'm still alive because I realised that being alive is the greatest thing on Earth. I don't want to die. I don't want to die with regrets. I want to stay alive, do what I want. Go for a bungee jump, climb a mountain, bake a cookie, get married, see my children get married, see aliens interacting with humans.

I want to stay alive. With this, I'm reminded of what sergeant major told me during my NS days, "don't look for trouble, trouble will come and find you". Indeed. Stay away from trouble. Don't do gangs, don't do drugs, don't do wrong. They will come and find you. I avoid. I know that I want to be alive and do many things. I'm not young but I'm not exactly old yet. I still have things to accomplish. I don't want to make a mistake in life and end up regretting. I don't want my family or friends to feel sad because of a foolish decision I've made. For the sake of greater tomorrow, stay alive.

Seriously, I don't have any serious goals or dreams I'm after. I don't yearn to be a doctor, a cleaner or a man with 20 wives. I don't aim to own a private jet, train line or a car. I just want to live a simple life with my loved ones by my side. Is my goal in life too simple or is it too complicated?

Everyone's goal changes from time to time, year to year, age to age. I never thought that I would have these goals now. Who knows that my goals will change. No matter how we change our goal, it's still love we have in mind. How about you? Are you still kicking the ball in the field looking for the goal? What's your goal now?